One of the most frequently asked questions when it comes to divorce is how much time it will take. Most of the time, the people who are wondering that question are facing this process without a clear idea of what to expect; they may not have been through divorce before, and may not have had close friends or family members who have either.
Divorce is one of the most difficult transitions that any family can navigate. Many people who are facing the prospect of divorce find themselves overwhelmed, scared, stressed out, and completely unsure of what to do next. You’re not alone if you are feeling those things!
You know the story: two women come to King Solomon with a dispute about whose baby a certain infant is. The king comes up with a plan: He'd get a sword and slice it in half, so that each of the women could have a part of the baby. Woman #1 says (I'm paraphrasing), “Sure! That seems fair to me. Sounds like a good plan.” Woman #2 cries out, “No! Don't hurt the baby! The other woman can have the child – just don't hurt it!”
Read ArticleThere are some people who can negotiate things with fairness and a level-head. Then there are…. the others. When it comes to parenting time disputes, negotiating can be fraught with all kinds of dangers above and beyond the ones in other kinds of negotiations. After all, if you go to buy a used car and the used car salesman tries to get one over on you:
Read ArticleSo you've made a Decision and you've gone through various Transitions in relation to that Decision. Things are starting to settle down in many ways. You have the opportunity to enter the Equilibrium stage. This is the phase in which you must remember to remain vigilant. It's easy to coast, but if you do, a lot of your hard work during the Transition phase may be lost. Many find themselves facing another Decision, much sooner than they expected!
Read ArticleIt is in the Transition phase that we can recognize that the past is in the past, and can start putting the pieces together for our (and our families') present and future. This allows us to build toward Equilibrium (which we will discuss in the next blog).
Read ArticleThe word “divorce” has so much baggage, doesn't it? For many, when you hear the word it brings up images of fighting and nastiness and sadness and all kinds of other things. For others, it might bring feelings of shame or guilt.
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